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HOW TO TOAST A WOMAN

As popular as dating websites are, every year a minimum of one thousand new dating website is being created worldwide. Online dating statistics shows that 20% of those in committed relationship began online and 7% of marriages in 2015 were between couples that met on a dating website. Why is it that we have just 7% of marriages? This statistics shows that against popular belief, people still need one on one interaction to get to meet new people or to meet the person they like. We are all whom we are by conditioning, either by our society, family, culture, religious background, etc. and also the type of training we were exposed to while growing up. It is therefore important to note that over dependence on social media could lead to poor social and interpersonal skills which could make people prone to depression, suicide, exposure to pornography, and even sexual dysfunction. This means that interpersonal skills and social skills are gradually being eroded in our society today because people stay behind their phones to chat, talk, transact business, network, etc. and what this does is it reduces how we interact and relate with people physically because we have gotten used to everything being done with our phones. We would notice these days that people also use their phones to express their bad or negative side, by leaving bad comments on people’s pages, throttling people and doing all sorts on social media. Working on our interpersonal skills to enable us learn how to meet or talk to someone one on one, rather than rely so much on social media and end up not knowing how to approach the opposite sex or even maintaining a relationship peradventure. It is high time parents start watching what their children consume online, especially when they are being handed a mobile device, parents should make sure they teach them how to meet and relate with people by creating opportunities for them to interact with other people by taking them out so as improve their interpersonal skills, rather than allowing them lock themselves up in the room free of interaction with people. Back in the days where social media wasn’t as popular as it is now, people would talk and interact with other people one on one and still it was difficult for a man to toast a lady. Now, toasting a lady might sound so simple, but there are a lot of men that find it very difficult to look at a lady eye ball to eye ball, or to say hello to a woman or to even ask them out on a date. There is something in every man that makes them want to get that woman they desire, thereby strategizing on how to go about it and the feeling of accomplishment whenever they finally get that woman they desire and this is part of what boosts a man’s ego. Also for women, there is something that always makes them desire the attention of a man and there’s a kind of feeling a woman gets when she is being toasted or asked out by a man even though she doesn’t like the man or maybe she is married. She still feels that she is attractive, beautiful and still “got it” whenever she is being approached by a man. How do you make it easy to toast a woman? It is important to note that money is not everything and you don’t have to always use it to toast a lady. The belief that making a whole lot of money before toasting a woman or going into a relationship should be countered as it is not all women that have that as their criteria. Therefore a man should learn how to improve his interpersonal skills, his social skills, learn how to win a woman’s heart and how to win her to his side. This when done, boosts a man’s ego and makes him feel like he is on top of the world. Overcome your fear of rejection. This can be done by telling yourself it is okay to be rejected, you need to psyche yourself, you need to accept that everyone doesn’t have to like you and every lady doesn’t have to say yes to you. Men should work on this fact and learn how to move on from when they are being rejected before starting to approach women. For most men that find it hard to toast a lady, the problem is looking at a lady and thinking she is too beautiful or too big or too rich for you, etc. so you think she will definitely say no to you, which shouldn’t be an issue. Thus, the best way to overcome your fear of rejection is to understand that it is okay to be rejected. How then do you know if a lady is going to reject you if you don’t take that step to talk to her and even if she makes jest of you and throw bad words at you, dust that off and move to the next person. Before you talk to 6 or more people, someone will definitely say yes to you and you never can tell if the first person would be the one to say yes. Try to make her a friend first instead of going directly to toasting her. First get close to her, make her your friend and then it will be easy to take it to the next step. While doing this don’t be too carried away to allow a lady friend zone you or refer to you as a brother and don’t get too comfortable being friends with her when you know the motive of making friends with her in the first place. Do a bit of research about her. Social media has made things easy when it comes to finding out about someone. Do a bit of research about her; her kind of friends, her likes and dislikes, what she does for a

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Different Types Of Female Orgasm?

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Women’s sexuality is very complex compared to men’s, which is why it is sometimes hard for a woman to enjoy sex or have orgasm. Thus, men should put extra effort and learn the skills to make their spouse achieve orgasm. Also when it comes to sex and love making, sex is very deep and it could be extreme and if one keeps looking for more sexual pleasures by trying to get to the depth of sex, you could dehumanize yourself and your life can be lost when trying out those complicated and complex things. There are healthy ways that is so interesting to achieve sexual desires, and below are some of the types of female orgasm; Clitoral orgasm. About 75% of women will not reach orgasm with penile penetration and for some women penetration is just an icing on the cake for them. If a man is wondering where to touch or what to do to make a woman reach orgasm, he should understand and learn about the clitoral orgasm because the clitoris is the center of enjoyment for women. Women should also take time to understand and discover themselves and their bodies and know what they really like and what works for them so as to be able to communicate it to their spouse. Clitoral orgasm can be easily achieved by gently licking, sucking or fingering the clitoris to derive pleasure. It also require special skills and taking one’s time around the clitoris; moving from the lap, to the bum, to the labia, while brushing through the clitoris gently and by the time you are coming back to the clitoris, it is already swollen and begging for attention and the woman is already aroused. Clitoral orgasm is very interesting and a lot of women find it easy to achieve clitoral orgasm. G-spot orgasm. The g-spot is located about 2 to 3 inches inside a woman’s vagina, at the root or top of the vagina. G-spot orgasm can be achieved by dipping a finger or 2 inside a woman’s vagina. A woman can get an explosive orgasm by fingering her while touching the clitoris. For so many women that achieve orgasm through penetration, what happens is that while the man is thrusting, he’s able to touch the g-spot thereby making a woman reach orgasm. There are certain positions that could help you touch the g-spot while having sex and sometimes when you decide to change positions during sex and you notice something feels good, then maintain that position. Blended orgasm. This is when you are able to stimulate 2 parts of the woman’s body at the same time to achieve orgasm. Stimulation and caressing works a lot for women to achieve orgasm and taking time to take care of the body before diving or penetrating into the vagina does it for a lot of women. When doing this, you will need both of your hands and your eyes. Multiple orgasms. This could be serial (having an orgasm and picking it up again to have another) or sequential (having an orgasm and taking your time before having another) Women have the capacity to orgasm back to back unlike men that have to take their time before achieving another orgasm. Sleepgasm. This type of orgasm occurs when you asleep and for some people, it could wake you up when it happens. Sleepgasm cannot be learnt or tried, it happens on its own especially when you are in a relaxed state or when your underwear comes in continuous contact with your clitoris. For some people it could happen as a result of watching or reading some dirty or sexual contents before going to bed. Cervical or C-spot orgasm. This happens as a result of deep penetrating sex and when the penis touches the opening of the cervix. Some people use toys to achieve this type of orgasm and the only disadvantage is being prone to infection while trying to use toys. Also for those that have partners with XL penis, it is very easy to achieve cervical orgasm. U-spot or urethra orgasm. The urethra is not only for peeing, it is surrounded by some of the hidden parts of the clitoris and there are beautiful nerves ending that are centered on the urethra. When the urethra is well stimulated, blood rushes to the erectile tissue which can result to ejaculation or squirting. Urethra orgasm is very good for those that like to squirt and what you need to do is deep penetration that allows you touch the opening of the urethra. Most people also achieve u-spot orgasm with urethra toys. A-spot or anterior fornix erogenous orgasm. This is located right above the cervix, around the belly button and it can be achieved with deep penetration and with some certain styles. Nipple orgasm. The nipple is like a small clitoris because it is also made up of nerves ending. For some people, the nipple can be such a turn on for them and they can achieve orgasm by merely touching their nipple. Coregasm or exercise induced orgasm. This is induced by exercises that are focused on trimming the tummy and firming the tummy muscle. This could happen shortly after the exercise or during the exercise. Exercising is good to keep a healthy sexual life and also helps to be sexually active. Expanded sexual response. Not every woman can experience this type of orgasm and those that experience the ESR have multiple prolonged intense and highly sensual orgasms at the same time.

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HAPPY NATIONAL ORGASM DAY LADIES

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Hey Beautiful, Remember to treat yourself to a good dose of orgasm today, it’s national Orgasm Day baby, and it’s gonna be a long night….. National orgasm day is usually celebrated on the 31st of July in most countries across the world, include UK and America. To celebrate the day, here is one amazing fact you need to know about orgasm: There’s a type of orgasm called the U-SPOT ORGASM. Have you been trying to squirt without result, make sure you achieve u-spot orgasm and all you will have to do is have a towel handy. Your urethra isn’t just for peeing, when a woman is aroused through the stimulation of the urethra, blood rushes to the tissue surrounding the opening of the urethra and this can result in explosive orgasms that brings about squirting. The question is, how do you stimulate the urethra? The good news is that your clitoris actually extends to the urethra, so stimulating the clitoris could lead to urethra stimulation but not in all cases. Certain positions could also help the penis to do the job and of course urethral vibratory. But before you insert anything, remember the urethra can be prone to infection.

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FILLING YOUR EMOTIONAL VACUUM

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A bad relationship can make one’s life miserable; therefore we need unending support from family members, friends, lovers, etc. Living life without a proper support system could be frustrating, and could be worse if it comes to intimate relationship where you are lonely and wish you had someone to show you all the affection you need. Most couple tends to outgrow their emotions and expression of what they feel for each other. Love is an action word; it should be shown and expressed by our actions. It is important for humans to crave love and affection, most especially from loved ones; we want to hear how we are cared for and loved unconditionally. The power of touch is therefore important as it expresses our love and care to others; children who missed the power of touch in their early childhood could grow up to be bullies or have a lot of paraphillic symptoms, ADHD, etc. all these could happen by simply not telling our children we love them when we ought to or drawing them closer often or when need be. This also apply to adults in long relationships that have outgrown how to express their love and affection towards their partners, which includes kissing, hugging and telling them you love them from time to time. Unfortunately for couples, they tend to get carried away and don’t express how they care about each other, thereby affecting their mental health in the long run. Relationship is very important and needs to be taken seriously, we need to start making deliberate effort to take care of people around us, and we need to express our love and affection to those around us and our loved ones. It is possible in a relationship for one party, which is mostly the woman to be the only one depositing in a relationship, i.e. showing affection, care, always checking up on the other party, making effort to ensure that their sexual life is blooming, giving all round support, making sure the relationship bond is strong, ensuring the other party gets all he desires, etc. Men that fails to deposit in relationship as most women does require love and affection at some point in their lives, which could be at their lowest point/vulnerable moment and because they have not been contributing or depositing into their relationship, it is very easy to get carried away by cheating on their partners, making costly mistakes, getting anxious, or even falling into depression. Because the place they are supposed to refuel from is empty as a result of not fulfilling their own part of the deposit in the relationship they are in. Whatever you give is what you get, and when it comes to marriage, it is 100% deposit from both parties. Depositing kisses, warmth, love, words of encouragement, good sex, orgasm, support, affection, etc. so that when your system is down and asking for all the above mentioned, you can always have something to fall back on and pick up from. Both men and women are vulnerable and when there is lack of love and affection from your partner, there is a tendency to get carried away and try to fulfill your desires somewhere else.

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POSSIBLE REMEDIES FOR PREMATURE EJACULATION

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As earlier stated, research have shown that 95% of premature ejaculation problem is psychological while 5% is physiologically related; hence the focus on dealing with the psychological factors. Below are some of the possible remedies for premature ejaculation; Using withdrawal method. As much as we are aware that some women don’t reach orgasm quickly like men do, it is important for men to master the art of foreplay to prolong their erection. Gone are the days when women don’t complain about their lack of satisfaction when it comes to sex because most of them see it as a duty back then, now the tables have turn and women now want to enjoy sex. So engaging in foreplay has a way of helping men delay their ejaculation, thereby making the woman enjoy sex by reaching orgasm and making the man maintain erection. Wear a condom. Condoms helps men reduce the sensitivity of their genitals, this doesn’t mean the pleasure you get from wearing a condom is different from when you don’t wear one. It is ideal for anyone battling with premature ejaculation to start wearing a condom so as to prolong erection. Change your positions often. Start engaging in different positions you’re so not used to because the easy positions gets you to the peak of pleasure thereby causing early ejaculation and lack of satisfaction on the woman’s part. For example the traditional missionary style which is known to make men ejaculate easily and early. Engage in kegel exercises. This is also known as pelvic-floor exercise which is known to strengthen the vagina muscles and not limited to women only. This is done by holding your pelvic floor muscle for some seconds when feeling the urge to urinate which can be done several times in a day and anywhere. The more this is practiced, the more a man will be able to delay ejaculation. Research have shown that most men who practice kegel exercise start lasting longer after about 12 weeks of this consistent practice. Focus your thought on something unrelated to sex during the act of love making. Without your partner getting to notice that your attention is divided, shift your thought onto something that isn’t sex related for a few seconds as this will delay your ejaculation. Men should learn how to balance this so as not to lose concentration while making love. Communication. While a man is trying to deal with his premature ejaculation, communicating the problem to his partner is very important as it makes the woman aware of the reason for her partner’s poor erection, rather than mixing concoctions to drink and having all sort of aphrodisiacs without the knowledge of the woman. By communicating, both partners can solve the problem together and the woman is able to understand where the problem is coming from rather than getting agitated about her partner’s poor erection every now and then. Breathing exercise and mindfulness. Most men lose erection at the point of penetration when the heart start beating fast and when they start to get agitated, hence the need for breathing exercise. Practicing breathing exercises in and out of the bedroom helps the man have control over his breath that leads to lack of erection. Go with the flow. Enjoy sex as it comes, be calm, don’t panic, keeping it in mind that it’s not bad to ejaculate quickly at the first round, but plan to keep it longer during the second. Prolong foreplay. This makes the man learn the act of delaying his ejaculation, thereby pleasing the woman, getting use to himself and having more fun time with his partner. Sometimes a man can get carried away, leading to early ejaculation but not to worry; this can go for the first round and help you build up during the retractive period for a more prolong penetration during the second round. Practice self-love. This helps when dealing with premature ejaculation by rubbing the cap of the penis personally. This rub and stop process like some people call it is done by rubbing the cap of the penis and stopping when you start getting the urge to ejaculate. When this is done, psychologically, you are training the most sensitive part of the penis which is the cap to get use to sensitivity without ejaculating. This process can be repeated severally to train the penis to get use to sensitivity. Are you struggling with any form of male sexual dysfunction issues and need professional help? Click here to book an appointment with the the Sex Therapist HERE

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MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT PREMATURE EJACULATION

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Introduction Premature ejaculation is a form of sexual dysfunction and this could be seen in men and women. For women it could be pain during sex, orgasmic issues, sustenance of orgasm, low libido and the likes. For men, it could be erectile problem, ejaculation disorder, libido disorder, and other dysfunctions. Premature ejaculation happens when the man ejaculates when he doesn’t want to or when his partner doesn’t want him to. It is also the incapacity of a man to continue or inability to sustain during sex. It is also a situation where a man releases sperm few seconds after penetration. So if you ejaculate within a minutes, it means you are suffering from premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is not necessarily about how many minutes you can last, it is about losing control over your erection. It is about your ability not to climax when you desire. Why is premature ejaculation a big problem for men? Erection is very egoistic and men’s sexuality is attached to their ego. So it is the desire of every man to satisfy his woman, make her scream, moan, and not seem to be pretending. Every man loves that feeling of being on top of the world when it comes to sexuality and when a man fails to satisfy his woman, it affects him a whole lot. There is nothing as fulfilling for a man as being able to make love to his woman where he wants it, how he wants it and when he wants it without any erection restriction. Premature ejaculation is subjective, thus men shouldn’t be comparing themselves to those ones that last an hour or so. Research has shown that premature ejaculation is the number one sexual issue men less than 50 years of age experience. Research also shows that one out of every three men will experience premature ejaculation at a point in their life, so there shouldn’t be a cause for alarm if you experience this. It is normal for you to experience premature ejaculation sometimes, but should becomes a problem when it happens every time. Things to look out for to know you have premature ejaculation 1. You always or nearly always ejaculate within one minute of penetration. 2. You do not have the capacity to delay the ejaculation every time you have sex. 3. You feel frustrated and distressed anytime you think about sex and you want to avoid intimacy because you feel you under-perform. Misconceptions about premature ejaculation 1. If I cannot last more than two minutes then I have premature ejaculation. Research shows that you’re considered to be suffering from premature ejaculation if you can’t last more than one minute, thus two minutes and above is considered okay. 2. People believe the way it is done in the movies is how it should be. Learning how to have sex by watching porn or x rated movies is like learning how to drive by watching fast and furious movie; it does not work that way. We tend to have these images, fantasies and the ideal way about how we should have sex and when it is not done the way we have pictured it, we condemn ourselves. 3. If I cannot make her cum during penetration, I have premature ejaculation. This is a wrong thought as there are about 15% of ladies that reach orgasm by mere kissing, some by grabbing their ass, some by playing with their nipples, some by just touching or by grabbing their boobs. For most women it takes about 10-15 minutes to make them cum and during those minutes the man must be hitting the G spot continuously to make her cum, and for some women it takes a very long time to make them cum, so as a man you shouldn’t be judging your ejaculation by that. 4. My friends can last longer, so should i. You find yourself among your friends talking about how long they last during sex and you begin to compare yourself to them, forgetting the fact that you are different people and what works for A might not work for B. In conclusion, we are products of our biological make up and our socio-cultural upbringing when it comes to sexuality. A child that was exposed to sexuality at a young age or was being molested could develop high sensitivity to sex when he or she grows, while another child who was properly trained and nurtured as a child could have low sensitivity to sex when he or she becomes an adult, making them two different individuals. So men’s ejaculatory period should not be measured, as we are products of how we were nurtured while growing up. So drink water, pat yourself at the back and tell yourself you are doing great! Having issues with premature ejaculation? Book an appointment with The Fixer HERE

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WE ARE SEXUAL BEINGS

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As human beings, we are sexual beings. Thus right from childhood, we look for ways to gratify our sexual desires throughout our developmental stages till when we become adults. Maturity and proper development comes in when we do not allow such desire for pleasure to override our sense of reasoning. Sex is a very important part of our lives and we get a kind of satisfaction from having a sexually fulfilling life. If you see a woman or a man that is incapable or not fulfilled in the bedroom, it tends to affect every area of their lives and makes them unproductive. Sexuality is a part of us, it is more than just penis and vagina it is our being, it determines our identity, our relationship and our development. Therefore, it is important to put our sexual life in the right perspective. Sex is a spiritual gift given by God to humans, it is supposed to be enjoyed and we should always make the best of it. You should think about sex and get excited, it should be something you share with someone special, something so deep that makes you vulnerable, something you always think about and gets you wet or causes an erection. But for so many people, especially in this part of the world, sex seems to be a curse and the reason peoples marriages are falling apart. In Nigeria, the rate of secrecy, pretense and hypocrisy in marriages is alarming. Failure to open up about their sexual desires, sexual issues, where and how they want to have sex, etc, which is the cause of premature ejaculation. As couples, you need to loosen up, stop pretending and be yourself. Men seem so comfortable telling their girlfriends to suck them like they mean it and do other stuff to them, but can’t say such to their wives. Also women can’t tell their husbands the sex position they want, demand for oral sex, etc.

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THE PROS AND CONS OF SHOWER SEX

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In Nigeria, there is no statistics of how many people get married out of love, thus majority of people get married for the wrong reasons which leads to unhappiness. In this part of the world, couples fail to understand that love is a gift; hence they don’t include it on their scale of preference while preparing to go into a relationship. We tend to get carried away with other things forgetting that romance is the CORE in a relationship. Topics like this when discussed helps couples get back to spicing things up in their relationship. Therefore, shower sex is one of the ways to spice things up in your relationship, and here are some things you can do in preparation for shower sex; Prepare your bathroom for it. Introducing shower sex in your relationship can be tricky, so you have to deliberately install some things in your bathroom, such as foot mat, handles to hold, and other materials to help you achieve your aim. You also need to take out or uninstall anything that can harm you or your partner, because sometimes shower sex can be spontaneous. Use water based lubricant. Water would get your partner dry, therefore using a lubricant while having sex in the shower is advisable. Remove all obstructions. Shower curtains, shampoos, buckets, etc should be removed to avoid distractions. Stay out of the bath during foreplay. Set the mood in your bathroom. Dim the light, install colored lights, have a bedside lamp, put on soft music, etc to put you and your partner in the mood. Undress each other. Sometimes undressing each other in the bathroom while fore playing puts you in the mood for sex. Couples should learn how to do this more often. Kiss. Kissing while the shower is running gives a spark and a rejuvenating feeling. Make use of your mirror. Look at your partner lustfully in the mirror while having sex in the shower, it kind of give a boost. Know when to stop. When it gets awkward and uncomfortable, you can extend the sex somewhere else. There should be no boundaries. There are certain styles you can use in the bathroom, which are; Inside out. One person stays under the shower while the other outside the shower to ensure balance. One leg up. The man raises one of the woman’s legs up, rather than placing it on the floor or on the edge of the bath tub. Standing doggy. This position allows for great stimulation as your man would be able to touch your boobs, spank you ass and can have access to every part of your body. Reverse cow girl. Here both couple is facing the same direction while the woman sits on top. Leg wrapping. This is mostly for strong men and light women because the man needs to balance well while lifting the woman off the ground and wrapping her legs around his waist. Trying new things out in a relationship, helps spice things up and ensures a healthy relationship.

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LOSS OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION IN MARRIAGE

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I want to help you fix some of the sexual issues you might be facing in your marriage. Cheating has become the order of the day and you will ask yourself why this is happening, amazingly, women are beating the men to it in today’s world. Read this carefully “We made love virtually everywhere when we first got married; in the car, couch, at the beach, in the bathroom, in fact, we had an unforgettable sexual escapade at the cinemas, we were sitted at the last row and I pulled up my skirt and sat on him and we had a quickie. I’m always horny and he is ever ready, at a point I did not have to put on underwear whenever we were together because in our heads we can make love at anytime and anywhere. I look back now and I wonder when those times will come back again.” This was someone speaking to me and I wrote it down. Most of the times, if you are following me you know I pick topics based on issues that are brought to my office so that if you are going through this problem in your life, you can have them solved. This couple was so into each other that they had to have sex in the cinema (that’s some wild move) and then all of a sudden they lost that spark. This same woman will climb her husband, walk around naked, caress him, nothing worked for him; no erection, but this same man goes out there and meets another woman and boom he gets an erection even without the lady saying anything. This is a very common issue I have noticed over time especially with people in long term committed relationship. If you are in this kind of relationship, the possibility that you’ve noticed this once or twice is very high. The story you just read might look pathetic but this is the case of most marriages. This is just not about men, it might be the other way round but in this part of the world, women are rather more silent. As a woman, you might look at your husband and feel irritated and certainly not aroused but when you go out there and meet some other men, in no time you feel aroused, what we say as ‘being wet’. I have had a couple of women come to me saying ‘Dr. Tolu, I don’t know what is wrong with me , immediately I saw him I became wet and all I wanted was for him to make love to me.’ Loss of Sexual attraction should not be mixed up with Sexual dysfunction like frigidity or erectile dysfunction etc. Unfortunately, they are interwoven but they are entirely different because we can not say a man that doesn’t feel an erection with his wife but feels erection with somebody else has erectile dysfunction or a woman that is not aroused by her husband but gets wet by merely hugging some other guy is frigid. Another complicated part of loss of sexual attraction is that it has nothing to do with love. You can be in love with a person and not be sexually attracted to that person. You might even wish to have sex with him/her but you find that it is not working, you are not attracted. So, what is going on? What happens? Because this is your wife/husband and at the initial stage, you will see her/him and feel erection/aroused but now you even see her/him naked and you are not moved. Some people say, oh, it’s because men are polygamous in nature but the question we will ask is, are women polygamous in nature too? But this happens to women too. What is then the problem? I will always tell people that Love could be blind but marriage is an eye-opener because responsibilities would come up and this is when you know if your marriage can stand the test of time. CAUSES OF LOSS OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION IN MARRIAGE 1. Loss of the hunting nature in men Men want to hunt. They want to look for their prey and capture it. It feels their Ego. Men can fantasize about sex a lot; he would strategize about the right way to get his prey. It gives him fulfillment and joy. At the end of the day if he is able to capture that which he is looking for and it becomes his own and keeps it in his home. With the sex, a man knowing that he could get sex whenever he wants could affect the sexual attraction in the home. This nature is affected when there is nothing to look out for anymore. When your boobs and vagina are easily available, the man looses his hunting spirit. It reduces the desire. For so many women, you just walk around naked, he sees everything each time, your man will have nothing to look out for and he looses his desire to have sex with you. Your breast is not something that should be everywhere; your breast should not be easily accessible. Let your private be private, it shouldn’t be public. In this article, I will like to help you fix some of the sexual issues you might be facing in your marriage. Things have gotten so bad in today’s marriage that cheating has become the order of the day and one can only keep asking why this is happening. Cheating used to be a man thing, amazingly, women are beating the men to it in today’s world. Read this carefully “We made love virtually everywhere when we first got married; in the car, couch, at the beach, in the bathroom, in fact, we had an unforgettable sexual escapade at the cinemas, we were sitting at the last row and I pulled up my skirt and sat on him and we had a quickie. I’m always horny and he is ever ready, at a point I did

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HOW TO KNOW IF HE/SHE CARES ABOUT YOU

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How do I know if my spouse cares about me? People tend to walk into my office asking questions like ‘Dr. Tolu how do I know if my partner loves me?’ or perhaps you are one that likes to keep your money away from your partner especially from men to women saying you will like to test her and be sure she doesn’t love you because of money. All these and many more do not guarantee someone’s love for you. The first thing I tell people is that for you to even ask that question in the first place, it is a red flag; for you to be bothered, unsure or confused, you have already gotten your answer. The answer is “NO”. If someone loves you, you would not need to ask and for women that mostly ask me, I tell them that for men that are in love it is even more intense because they find it hard to hide their feelings unlike women even though they are more emotional. If someone loves you and you love someone, you will find peace; you won’t be worried or restless. For instance, you are asked “Jane, what are you doing with kingsley” your answer will always move towards positivity if you love him and you know that he loves you unlike your answer coming off like “Errrrm…., I’m not so sure what I’m doing with him”. When you love someone and vice versa, you will feel loved, cared for and at peace, he/she wants to know that you are fine, you will feel safe, whatever makes you unhappy becomes their problem also. Finally, I am sure you know the signs, you are aware when somebody doesn’t love you, you know when this person treats you like garbage, you know when this person makes you feel worthless. I understand love sometimes can make you feel helpless but it never takes away the ability for you to be logical, for you to speak to yourself, for you to boldly say to yourself that you deserve better. Nobody deserves to be treated lesser than a human. Putting love aside, even outside a relationship, if you allow yourself to be treated lesser, it says a lot about your Self Esteem, it says a lot about your self worth also, about you feeling like you don’t deserve better. No one is going to see you better than you see yourself. So you will ask me “Dr. Tolu how do I know if this person loves me?” and this is what I’ll tell you, a lot of times you know when some one cares about, you will see the signs. The only question you need to ask yourself is ‘Who am I and what do I deserve?”.

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HOW TO TOAST A WOMAN

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