There is a statement I make quite often in my work: “I do not think marriage, as we currently understand and practise it, was designed for Africans”. I know how provocative that sounds and I also know that someone will...
Introduction Over the years, I have sat accross clients, watch african culture unfolds, withness social media misconceptions as well as individual ignorance surrounding the subject of femininity. For generations, women were told that they were too emotional, too soft, too...
The Conversation Many Couples Are Not Ready to Have There is a conversation many professionals avoid because it sits at the uncomfortable intersection of intimacy, identity, and performance: the link between one’s sexual life and one’s economic and functional output....
Introduction In my close to two decades of practice as an African therapist living in Africa, I have seen so many issues that are rarely thought in textbooks. It is no news that most, if not all of the counseling...
Marriage is designed to be one of the most powerful sources of emotional safety, attachment security, and psychological regulation. In a healthy relational environment, partners function as emotional anchors for one another, providing comfort, validation, connection, and stability. However,...
In my years of working intimately with couples across Africa, particularly in Nigeria, I’ve seen a recurring pattern that many men are silently battling with, erectile dysfunction that is selective. These men are not entirely impotent; in fact, many of...
SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION: It is the consistent, recurring difficulty experienced by an individual during any phase of the sexual cycle that prevents the individual or couple from experiencing satisfaction from the sexual activity. In other words, when anything hinders an individual...
In Nigeria, there is no statistics of how many people get married out of love, thus majority of people get married for the wrong reasons which leads to unhappiness. In this part of the world, couples fail to understand that...
So what is the purpose of kissing? Imagine a kiss being like a job interview for the elusive role of being someone’s significant other. The interviewer is looking for the candidate who best matches the job description. Similarly, when we kiss, we are looking for a...
Why do we kiss? Kissing is wonderful – so wonderful that most of us can recall 90 per cent of the details of our first kiss. Human beings have been preoccupied with kissing for years. It features as the climax of all great...
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