There is a statement I make quite often in my work: “I do not think marriage, as we currently understand and practise it, was designed for Africans”. I know how provocative that sounds and I also know that someone will...
Introduction Over the years, I have sat accross clients, watch african culture unfolds, withness social media misconceptions as well as individual ignorance surrounding the subject of femininity. For generations, women were told that they were too emotional, too soft, too...
The Conversation Many Couples Are Not Ready to Have There is a conversation many professionals avoid because it sits at the uncomfortable intersection of intimacy, identity, and performance: the link between one’s sexual life and one’s economic and functional output....
Introduction In my close to two decades of practice as an African therapist living in Africa, I have seen so many issues that are rarely thought in textbooks. It is no news that most, if not all of the counseling...
There is a kind of suffering that does not announce itself loudly, it does not begin with bruises or dramatic exits, but subtly in the body. A shift in sleep, a tightening in the chest, or, a constant, low hum...
Across Nigeria, and indeed much of Africa, there is a phrase that carries the weight of duty, sacrifice, and silent suffering, “I am staying because of the children.” It is repeated in counseling rooms, whispered in family compounds, defended by...
In recent years, the word narcissist has become one of the most searched, most used, and most misunderstood psychological terms on social media. There are podcasts, reels, threads, and survivors telling their stories, and to be factual, many of those...
In therapy rooms, it is rarely the loud complaints that reveal the deepest wounds. It is the silence. For many men, sex is not just physical release, it is more of a validation and reassurance. It is proof of desirability...
Marriage is designed to be one of the most powerful sources of emotional safety, attachment security, and psychological regulation. In a healthy relational environment, partners function as emotional anchors for one another, providing comfort, validation, connection, and stability. However,...
When we think about addiction, our minds often go straight to substances, alcohol, nicotine, or drugs. But there’s another kind of addiction that doesn’t come from a bottle or a pill, it’s one that develops inside your own body, inside...
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