THE YOU,YOU DONT KNOW.

Many times, I subliminally dig into people’s subconscious mind through quality questioning and they tell me their life stories without being asked. When I hear these stories, I understand the root of many things they do and may not know why they do them. I go on to lead them from their subconscious to their conscious using quality questioning to let them see why things are the way they are for them.
They sigh, cry, jump up and have different reactions, which precede their healing and deliverance.

Many people maintain a public facade to cover up many things in their private life. Some do not even know they are covering something up until they are faced with situations that expose them and they begin the search for an excuse to cover it up again.

I’ve seen many sexual addicts championing the cause of abstinence.
I’ve seen many people who live in a violent home, which they can’t leave but champion causes that speak against domestic violence.
Sadly, they get angry or they lose their cool if you touch that part of their private life and make you wonder if you said anything wrong. But you didn’t – you just touched their blind spot.

I read about a man in the UK who has an NGO sheltering and catering to the needs of women whose husbands batter yet he batters and cheats on his wife. He stopped his wife’s musical career and asked her to abort when she got pregnant because he wasn’t ready for fatherhood yet he got a concubine pregnant and asked her to keep it. The NGO paints a picture of a man who loves humanity but he’s the opposite at home.

People like this man abound. They live a life of facade – a showy misrepresentation intended to conceal something unpleasant in their life. Some do it consciously but some, unconsciously.

You say she’s rude and arrogant but that could be a coping mechanism for her. Maybe she was bullied as a child and she wants to prove she’s no longer that timid child now that she is grown. So, arrogance became her coping mechanism.
You say he’s very defensive but that attribute could be a way of covering his inadequacy.
You disagree with him and he sees you as the enemy. If you dig deep, it could be that he grew up in a family where antagonising one another was the order of the day. And so, he sees every critic as an antagonist and enemy. He may not even know why he’s doing such until he’s able to go back to his upbringing and some events that hold great emotional significance for him.

See, don’t judge people by first or last impression until you understand where they are coming from. People are not really their behaviour. Events and time have ways of bringing people’s blind spot out. Just be humane enough to help them and if you can’t help, be empathetic enough to not judge them.

MATTHEW FEMI-ADEDOYIN