Someone wrote this on Goodtherapy.com: Hi. I’m not sure how to say this so I’ll just say it. I masturbate at least twice a day. Whenever I finish, I feel a profound sense of shame about it and I feel terrible for like an hour. Sometimes the shame even ruins my day. Everything I’ve read says masturbation is normal for guys, yet I can’t get past these feelings of shame and self-hatred. I feel like …
I will like to talk about 5 attributes your friendship or relationships must have. We all know that when two people are not sincere with themselves, the quality of friendship decreases frantically. Here are my top 5: 1. Sincerity Vs Insincerity The moment you are lying often about minor daily activities, your friend may become uncomfortable with you. Lying has become very common with people and this can be a turn off if you are not watchful. 2. Pretense vs Realness For some people, living …
THE URGENT NEED FOR PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING/THERAPY IN NIGERIA I recently counseled a young couple, they were separated and decided to come for counseling after the guy attempted suicide. The wife left with their two kids and the man became lonely and miserable. It took the intervention of neighbors and friends to rescue him, this is not moonlight story but reality. I’m sure the typical African man reading this will say, “ Is he alright ‘women …
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As unedifying as it sounds, i have to say this so we can understand the magnitude of the problem facing religious leader’s marriages… I have counseled G.O who is addicted to masturbation because mama didn’t show interest for 30 months, yes, you heard me, 30 months. I’ve been able to speak in churches where minister’s wife threatened to work out of her marriage as a result of poor sex life, and another cheating with her …
Ofure and I have been married for three years; it was and still is a marriage of willing bed fellows. I had known Ofure all my life but I really met her four years ago, crazy right? Well we grew up together, played together and even went to the same schools- primary, secondary and tertiary, but then she was just another annoying ugly girl. While we were very little, I remember I used to tease …
THE POWER OF TOUCH Do you know the largest organ in the human body? Hazard a guess. What is the largest human organ? I could almost bet the majority of you will be wrong. The largest human organ is the skin. In a grown man, it covers about 19 square feet and weighs over 3.5kg. A piece of skin the size of a small coin contains more than 3 million cells, 100 to 340 sweat glands, 50 nerve …
“Don’t open the door for me, i can do it myself , I’m not weak or arm less” What an irony, we want to be treated like a queen but dont want to be called a lady. BROKENNESS…I had no deep knowledge of this word until very, very recently, you would be surprised how much knowledge you can unveil in a word if and when you think deeply enough about it. The dictionary defines ‘broken’ …
You might disagreed with me when I talked about chasing a good woman instead of chasing money, but have you ever considered the life of a rich man with a bad wife? Is there any peace of mind or stable life for a man who is married to a troublesome woman? Your marriage is your life. To some extent, getting it wrong/right determines how the journey of your life will end. In my years …
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“There are more women than men” a very common statement among young men these days, some will even go as far as quoting Isaiah 4:1, but i can categorically tell you that, the number of men of marriageable age are currently more than those of women, even here in Nigeria. The reason why men seems to be more than men is because of the economic situation, the men who are due for marriage are not …
My partner use to to feel pain during sex. Please help me, what could be the cause and what can we do to stop it? ATTN. READERS: This blog is to give readers the opportunity to share their thought and experiences with the poster. Dr. Tolu is a professional relationship/marriage counselor and trained sex therapist, you can inbox her your question for public opinion on: info@intimacyclinic.org (IDENTITY WILL NOT BE DISCLOSED) or schedule a private …
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