HOW GENDER IDENTITY AFFECTS LOVE LANGUAGES
Introduction
A recent research shows that there are about a hundred gender identities in the world, but this article is concerned with straigh people who are in heterosexual relationships. Recent discovery in my practice as a sex therapist and couples counselor have shown alot of struggles amongs couples in sexless marriages, the truth is that we do not need long sessions to find out why this issue is so common in Africa, this is because an average african man equate romace to provision and protection, as much as the women are also conditioned to want same, the major part of them also want romace and emotional connection.
Humans are intelligent and dominant species on earth. Like other creatures on earth, they have specific necessities and urges to get on with their lives. Food, wealth, and sex are among their fundamental needs. However, humans are divided into two different genders, just like every living being. You cannot compare humans with other beings regarding emotional and sexual desires. Furthermore, the complexity of human urges, desires, and needs is more profound than other beings. Please keep reading to find out how a man and a woman differ in sexual and emotional desires.
Human Nature and Language of Love
Writers have written Millions of songs, books, and articles on love. They have done so because it is the ultimate truth and the basic desire. It is imprinted like a digital code in their genetics to love and be loved. Men who don’t understand women’s actual needs often face breakups. Men who don’t understand women’s basic needs often meet breakups.
For both genders, spending quality time with each other is most important. After that comes the urge to embrace each other and find comfort both physically and emotionally.
It is prevalent among men that they are not entirely in touch with the emotional side of the language of love. Ultimately, they try to express themselves through physical contact, strength display, and masculinity, which works only a few times and fails occasionally.
Why do Men Crave Sex?
It is not a mystery that men love sex. They want to hold a woman and make love to fulfill their emotional and sexual desires. The control over their sexual desires is weak among men, while emotionally, they are strong.
A recent study at Ohio State University brought some astonishing numbers. It was found that most younger males think of sex around 19 times a day. [York, 2019]
Similarly, overthinking about sex is one cause why they want sex. Furthermore, masturbation among men is much more common than in women, which shows a higher sex drive among men than women.
Furthermore, most men overlook women’s sentimental requirements and leave them emotionally unsatisfied.
In truth, it is the understanding of the language of love which makes one a good lover. There are very few men who meet women’s criteria of a perfect lover and partner.
Finally, a man who tends to his woman’s emotional side gets the most rewarding experiences of his life.
Why do Women Seek Emotional Attachment?
Women love a man who listens to them and connects with them emotionally while genuinely caring about what they have to say. Of course, sex is not an urge only associated with men; women have it too. However, controlling this desire is another topic. Women have excellent authority over their sexual urges but are emotionally weak and expect passionate attention.
It has been discovered by many studies in numerous countries that most women showed a dislike towards masturbation which shows a lack of interest in self-pleasuring among women. However, women tend to find comfort with romantic partners who understand their emotional side.
A recent study found that women who loved them and were committed to their partners experienced a morse satisfying sexual comfort. [state, 2014] Also, it can be a factor contributing to women’s romantic and emotional demands. Ultimately, for women, sex is much more than just sexual.
Conclusion
It will be best to understand that needs in relationships are different for both genders. You cannot hope to build a long-lasting and happy relationship if you only focus on your needs and desires without understanding the other’s side.
What does your partner desire? How strong are they emotional? What makes them happy, and why do they become sad? What do they like to talk about? These are some of the questions you should ponder to develop an excellent relationship.
Finally, you need to understand another question. Is my love life good? If it is not good, then what are you missing.
Did you know that most breakups result from a partner’s inaccessibility? In women’s cases, the partner’s unavailability is primarily emotional, while in men’s case, it is sexual. Need help in fixing your sexless marriage, write to us at info@intimacyclinic.org or call our 24/7 helpline: +2348184575377.
