I CHOOSE TO WRITE ABOUT VEE

#BBNAIJA is a very psychological show, I watch mostly to study the power play and interrelationship dynamics (Laycon changed that this year, though). Being a housemate requires a high level of emotional intelligence and effective cognitive skills. Some are lucky to be equipped with these skills during childhood.

Let me explain…

How do you explain telling a child to eat the food presented to her at a function, then beat her up while getting home for not getting the signal that she wasn’t meant to eat 🤷‍♀️ A highly confusing parenting style where a child does not know what to expect.

You tell a child to tell a visitor that you aren’t at home and beat her up for telling the visitor you said you aren’t at home. A child gets punished for not lying and you expect the child to be truthful🤷‍♀️forgetting that behaviors are learned.

She has so many unanswered questions, yet she dare not ask because you don’t question an adult as a child, you just obeyed. The next time she was being molested, you asked why she didn’t complain, she gets more confused because you already told her not to question an adult.

He played with his ‘peepee’ while sucking his tongue, your only explanation is a dirty slap, he gets more confused… Why do I get slapped for something so sweet.? Yet no further explanation.

We were trained to keep quiet even when we are being hurt, and conditioned to be hypocritical in the name of being polite. We were also cultured to pretend in order to make other people feel good, even while dying in silence.

We can still uphold our culture and bring forth balanced children. The children we tagged “wayward” invented almost everything we use in bringing up an African child. The reasons are simple; confidence upheld, self-esteem encouraged and self-expression allowed.

Most times, the African parenting style erodes a child’s confidence and self-esteem and intimidate him until his creativity goes into extinction.

People will rather be lied to than be told the truth. This explains the current relationship problems with most couples. Conspiracy of silence! If you don’t follow the norms you will be tagged the odd one out.

Vee’s only offense was to fall in the “wayward” children category. Speak her truth irrespective, truthful about her feelings no matter what anyone says. Bold, genuine, and confident with very high self-esteem.

I choose to write about Vee! People Tag her bitter because they can’t understand her ways. She says it the way it is and gives facial expressions where words are scarce.  Forgive us, Vee, we are not wired that way! A word of advice though, don’t stop being yourself.