Somatic Sex Therapy at The Intimacy Clinic

When Talk Isn’t Enough, We Help the Body Speak

Some wounds live beyond words. They sit in the body as tension, shutdown, numbness, or pain. They show up in the way you avoid touch, flinch at intimacy, dissociate during sex, or struggle to feel pleasure at all.

At The Intimacy Clinic, our Somatic Sex Therapy is a groundbreaking, body-based healing experience that reconnects you with your physical self—gently, safely, and profoundly. It helps you move from disconnection to embodiment, from fear to flow, from numbness to sensual aliveness.

Led by Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire, Africa’s foremost sex therapist and trauma-informed intimacy expert, this therapy blends modern neuroscience, therapeutic touch (non-sexual), emotional processing, and body awareness to release the imprints of trauma and awaken sexual wholeness.

What Makes Somatic Sex Therapy Unique

  • It Goes Beyond Talk
    While traditional therapy works through the mind, somatic sex therapy includes the body in the healing journey where sexual trauma, shame, or disconnection often hide.
  • It Is Safe, Non-Sexual, and Grounded in Consent
    All touch-based elements are optional, clothed, and guided by strict ethical and professional boundaries. The goal is embodiment, not arousal.
  • It Uses Body-Mind Tools for Healing
    Breathwork, body mapping, trauma release exercises, mindful movement, emotional tracking, and mirror work are integrated to restore safety in your body and awaken dormant pleasure pathways.
  • It Honors the African Body and Experience
    We work with the culturally conditioned body—the one taught to be silent, controlled, ashamed, or “owned” and gently liberate it from inherited sexual repression.

Common Issues Treated Through Somatic Sex Therapy:

  • Sexual shutdown or avoidance
  • Vaginismus or painful intercourse
  • Inability to feel pleasure or orgasm
  • Dissociation during intimacy
  • History of sexual abuse or violence
  • Body shame or trauma stored in the pelvis
  • Anxiety during sexual contact
  • Emotional numbness or lack of sensual awareness
  • Erotic self-rejection or spiritual sexual disconnect
  • Trauma stored from childbirth, FGM, coercion, or cultural conditioning

Who Is This Therapy For?

  • Women who feel sexually numb or broken
  • Men struggling to feel emotionally and physically connected during sex
  • Survivors of sexual trauma who want to feel safe in their bodies again
  • People raised in strict religious homes who carry sexual guilt
  • Couples who want to deepen sensual connection beyond performance
  • Anyone ready to reclaim the language of their body and feel alive again

What Healing Looks Like

You’ll learn how to:

  • Feel safe in your own skin again
  • Recognize where emotions live in your body
  • Release chronic tension or pelvic blocks
  • Activate pleasure without guilt
  • Reclaim your body as a sacred, sovereign space
  • Build sexual confidence through presence, not performance
  • Connect to desire from within—not just from external validation

A Word from Dr. Tolu

“The body never lies. It remembers what the mind forgets and stores what the heart couldn’t
hold. But the body also holds the key to your freedom. Somatic sex therapy isn’t just healing,
it’s homecoming.”

The Intimacy Clinic | Somatic Sex Therapy
Confidential. Compassionate. Clinical.
The body remembers. But it can also release. Reclaim. And rejoice.

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