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Hello, thank you for visiting my website, I am the Head Therapist at Intimacy Clinic. I’m passionate about Intimacy and Mental Health and I understand how a bad one could make life unbearable. I have close to two decades of experience in this and I have a 97% success rate. With an average of 20 hours of sessions weekly, you are in the best hands.
I’m a powerhouse of purpose and passion, Nigeria’s boldest voice in counseling, sex therapy, and mental health. The founder of the IChartered Institute of Counseling in Nigeria, I didn’t just break barriers, I bulldozed through taboos to professionalize counseling across the nation. I’m not just a therapist, I’m a movement.
I’m the therapist trailblazer, the literary firestarter, and the woman lighting up counseling with soul, science, and serious style. My purpose is tied to seeing you happy, I’m fulfilled when your pain turns to passion, hopelessness to hope, and frustration to courage to live again.
You are the reason I’m called The Fixer, and seeing you smile again is what I was not just trained to, but born to do as well!
Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire, widely known as The Fixer, is Africa’s foremost expert in relationship, sex, and mental health therapy. With close to two decades of transformative private practice and a 98% success rate, she is renowned for helping individuals and families heal, reconnect, and thrive.
Dr. Tolulope Oko-Igaire, widely known as The Fixer, is Africa’s foremost expert in relationship, sex, and mental health therapy. With close to two decades of transformative private practice and a 98% success rate, she is renowned for helping individuals and families heal, reconnect, and thrive.
Group Managing Director of The Chartered Institute of Counseling in Nigeria, Dr. Tolulope has trained and mentored hundreds of counselors, raising a new generation of ethical, skilled professionals across the continent. She also leads The Intimacy Clinic, Africa’s leading Couple, Sex & Mental Health hub transforming lives and nations by being the driving force behind Africa’s mental and sexual health advocacy movement.
Her unique clinical approach blends advanced strategies like Transformative Identity Reinvention, Cognitive Reconditioning, Behavioral Modification, Gestalt Therapy, and Psychodynamic Techniques with deep expertise in trauma, intimacy issues, family, and sexual dysfunction.
She had numerous advanced diploma certifications in different fields of counseling, a master’s in the social science, and is currently pursuing dual PhDs in Counseling Psychology and Sexology, She also holds an Honorary PhD in Counseling. She has numerous publications and awards under her belt.
As a speaker, Dr. Tolulope delivers powerful, relatable sessions that challenge stigma, shift mindsets, and spark lasting emotional transformation.
Dr. Tolu is married to a loving and exceptional man, who carries her visions like his and they are blessed with two amazing children, Jerry and Cherry.
I believe that healing is for everyone.
Men and women. Individuals and families.
My practice is rooted in the belief that every human being deserves emotional safety, sexual wholeness, and relational peace.
In a society where cultural norms have often privileged one gender over another, I offer a safe, professional, and non-judgmental space where balance can be restored without blame, without shame, and without losing one’s voice, values, or identity.
My work is not about choosing sides. It’s about repairing systems, reclaiming voices, and rebuilding intimacy within ourselves, in our homes, and across generations.
Closing Thought
I don’t take sides. I build bridges. Because when men and women heal together, families rise and society grows
1. Cultural Intelligence
I honor African cultural values while challenging the beliefs that perpetuate silence, fear, or imbalance. I offer therapy that is context-aware, not culture-blind.
2. Wholeness Before Roles
Before you are a husband, wife, parent, or partner you are a person. My approach helps clients reconnect with themselves so they can show up more powerfully in every role they play.
3. Gender Balance, Not Bias
I create a therapeutic space where both men and women feel seen, heard, and respected. I advocate for the liberation of women not to silence men, but to strengthen relationships and restore equity.
4. Trauma-Informed Care
I recognize that many people especially in our society carry wounds from childhood, cultural expectations, religion, or relational breakdowns. Healing begins when we stop pretending and start unpacking.
5. Transformative Identity Work
I developed the Transformative Identity Reengineering Intervention (TIRI) to help clients heal deeply, emotionally, cognitively, sexually, and spiritually so they can rise above pain and patterns to become their most empowered selves.
6. Relational Justice
I believe that healthy relationships are built on fairness, emotional safety, open communication, and shared responsibility, not dominance, silence, or suffering.
The world is a global village and distance is no longer a barrier to getting the needed help.
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